My expectations cause my unhappiness
Question:
Does anyone feel like I do? You grow up with the image of how your life is supposed to be. You’re supposed to be doing xyz for a living, with htis fabulous social life, lots of friends, exceling at all kinds of hobbies, and be a famous rock and roll superstar (substitute that last one with whatever was your magic fantasy dream as a teenager). Then suddenly you find yourself in your life, and you’re struggling, and there seems no such thing as a dream career, an everything is an effort, and you know on some level that you need to come to terms with your ridiculous broken fantasies, and you know that if you could learn to appreciate what you are lucky enough to have, that you could become more satisfied with day to day life, but you still find little pockets of your heart locked up in unrealistic expectations of what your life shoul dbe. And the media doesn’t help because it’s constantly selling you this image of perfect everything, perfect face, body, career, car, life, fame, hanging with the cool kids, etc. How do you break the cycle?
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been there, still there. I keep asking myself the same question. I look in the mirror.. what happened to me? I had it all going for me and then wham… a wrong move on the chess board and its check mate. If I ever get the chance… I am going back to college. I want to be a certified teacher. I substitute now and i love it. The kids all ask "who are you subbing for today Mrs Reeves?" and if its not their class, its "ah man"…. they make me feel so loved and needed. I hate summer! Look into going back to college and taking that course you wish you had as a teen. Make the changes necessary before its too late.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Does anyone feel like I do? You grow up with the image of how your life is supposed to be. You’re supposed to be doing xyz for a living, with htis fabulous social life, lots of friends, exceling at all kinds of hobbies, and be a famous rock and roll superstar (substitute that last one with whatever was your magic fantasy dream as a teenager). Then suddenly you find yourself in your life, and you’re struggling, and there seems no such thing as a dream career, an everything is an effort, and you know on some level that you need to come to terms with your ridiculous broken fantasies, and you know that if you could learn to appreciate what you are lucky enough to have, that you could become more satisfied with day to day life, but you still find little pockets of your heart locked up in unrealistic expectations of what your life shoul dbe. And the media doesn’t help because it’s constantly selling you this image of perfect everything, perfect face, body, career, car, life, fame, hanging with the cool kids, etc. How do you break the cycle?
Response:
Does anyone feel like I do?
Yes. you know on some level that you need to come to terms with your ridiculous broken fantasies
<nodding And the media doesn’t help because it’s constantly selling you this image of perfect everything, perfect face, body, career, car, life, fame, hanging with the cool kids, etc.
Bingo. Let me guess, your babysitter’s initials were T.V. Mine too! What a coincidence. How do you break the cycle?
Dunno. Join the Marines maybe? That would be a monumental life change and might rewrite a lot of your behavior. Personally, I wouldn’t try it — I would be crying and curled up in the fetal position after 10 minutes in front of a drill sergeant. As for some less extreme method… I am sorry, but I do not know. If I did, I probably wouldn’t be here sitting on my bottom writing this post. R
Response:
How do you break the cycle?
Well, I don’t have the answer but I know that it’s not a new question. Buddha addressed these sorts of issues 2500 years ago. You might try reading some of his early stuff. Siddharta Guatama (Buddha) was a royal prince and wanted for nothing. At 29 he decided that nothing satisfied him, his life was hollow, and he left his wife and child to find ‘the answer’. And he did. Bri
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I don’t really know much about Buddhism, but I’m fasinated by the teachings. I find them very peaceful and appealing. Siddharta Guatama (Buddha) was a royal prince and wanted for nothing. At 29 he decided that nothing satisfied him, his life was hollow, and he left his wife and child to find ‘the answer’.
In this day and age, leaving one’s wife and child would be consider abandonment and many would call him a "dead beat dad". Did have his family provided for at least when he left? Cindi
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Response:
Did have his family provided for at least when he left?
Yes. He was a royal prince and very rich. Even amongst Buddhists today there are discussions over whether it was a ‘Buddhist’ thing to do, leaving his family. Bri
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